When Mel Cassidy first became curious about nonmonogamy, there weren’t many helpful resources. Most of the books focused on the transition from monogamy to nonmonogamy, but Cassidy, who goes by them/them pronouns, was “freshly divorced, hadn’t really dated as an adult.” “I was winging it,” said Cassidy, who has since …
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“So what have you learned about love?” people often ask when they find out I’m an editor of Modern Love. “Oh, you know,” I say, “a lot.” Or, “Most clichés are accurate.” Or I delay, promising, “I’ll tell you later.” In case we don’t meet again, I’ll tell you now: …
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In honor of Modern Love’s 20th anniversary, we asked a dozen essayists to write a letter to the person they were when they published their essays. We wanted to know: What would you say to that younger version of yourself? How has your life, and the way you think about …
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