One day in 1993, the financier Jeffrey Epstein brought a model named Stacey Williams to Trump Tower in Manhattan to say hello to the building’s owner, Donald J. Trump. As he and Mr. Epstein chatted, Mr. Trump groped Ms. Williams, she said. Ms. Williams, a former Sports Illustrated swimsuit model, …
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In celebration of Modern Love’s 20th anniversary this month, we published a special package of articles about the column’s history and impact. To learn about the origin of Modern Love, read about seven ways to love better, see how the longtime illustrator creates his images, and much more, go to …
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A Frugal Way to Flirt I come from thrifty stock. We wash Ziploc bags. Repurpose dehumidifier water. Laugh at expiration dates. I got hives first entering my now husband’s house, where paper towels reigned and there was nary a dish towel in sight. Listening to water running while he brushed …
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In the 2024 presidential election, Karl Lenker is voting for former President Donald J. Trump. His girlfriend of a decade, Jan Lewin, is voting for Vice President Kamala Harris. So Ms. Lewin, 67, did not appreciate the Biden-Harris “Dumb and Dumber” mug that her partner bought for his morning coffee. …
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In 2014, when I was freshman in college, I saw a job post announcing that Daniel Jones, the founding editor of Modern Love, was looking for an intern to help judge the column’s third college essay contest. I applied, miraculously heard back, interviewed with Dan and then took a test …
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When I was in my early 20s, the apex of my people-pleasing years, I dated an aspiring poet. He didn’t want to get a job, he said, because it interfered with his creative process. He lived happily at home with his parents; I paid for everything else. As my debt …
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The Modern Love column debuted 20 years ago this month — on Halloween, scarily enough — with a story by a lifelong bachelor, Steve Friedman, who was trying to feel OK about being dumped. He wrote: “She dumped me. What’s important are not the details but the pronoun placement, ‘she’ …
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Two decades ago, on Oct. 31, 2004, a short note appeared on the front page of this newspaper along with stories about Yasir Arafat’s health and the looming election between George W. Bush and John Kerry. It read: “Modern Love: Introducing a new weekly column about love and relationships. Today, …
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“So what have you learned about love?” people often ask when they find out I’m an editor of Modern Love. “Oh, you know,” I say, “a lot.” Or, “Most clichés are accurate.” Or I delay, promising, “I’ll tell you later.” In case we don’t meet again, I’ll tell you now: …
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In honor of Modern Love’s 20th anniversary, we asked a dozen essayists to write a letter to the person they were when they published their essays. We wanted to know: What would you say to that younger version of yourself? How has your life, and the way you think about …
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